As a child it was fingernails on a chalkboard. As an adult this still annoys me but there are now a handful of postures and situations that really grate my nerves to an extreme degree. Dogmatic arrogance and exclusion are two things that take me from zero to sixty and make my blood boil with righteous wrath. I want people to see the world the way I see it. I want people to fight for justice, to love mercy, and seek inclusion in all ways possible. Something I'm learning right now is that the harder I fight for people to shift their perspective the easier it is to become more about me/being right than it is about the goodness of the gospel in that perspective.
My perspective is limited. I too easily see people as I want to see them. I make harsh judgements from their opinions or actions. I critique. I nitpick. I hold grudges.
Lately, my prayer has been to see others the way that God sees them. I certainly don't think that God sees us as beautiful flower children, I'm sure that God is more of a realist than that. Jesus was fully God and fully human - he pooped too. However, I believe that God and God's grace sees us as redeemed, worthy, known, and accepted. This perspective calls us out of righteous judgement and into listening and seeking reconciliation.
The lenses we see people through matter. What if we sought to see others the way that God sees them?